Are Your Thoughts Lying to You? How Cognitive Biases Distort Reality and Fuel Anger

We rarely react to what’s happening in the moment—we react to the meaning we’ve assigned to it through the lens of our past. That lens is often shaped by unconscious mental shortcuts called cognitive biases. These distortions—like personalization, confirmation bias, and negativity bias—can make us feel attacked, rejected, or dismissed when that’s not the reality. The result? Explosive anger, emotional shutdowns, and relational disconnect. In this powerful and practical article, we explore how these biases operate, how they feed our pain stories, and what it takes to recognize and rewire them. If you're ready to break the cycle and rise in truth instead of distortion, this piece is your first step.